How to steal, lie and cheat your way to love
Okay, we admit it – our favorite new love-story movie is Leap Year. It speaks to many of our research findings from the three decades we have researched successful marriage and relationships on six continents of the world.
One of our favorite lines in the movie went something like this – “May you never steal, lie, or cheat.” And before you start getting all worked up over this line, we offer you the punch line – “… but if you must steal, then steal away my sorrows, and if you must lie, lie with me all the nights of my life, and if you must cheat, then please cheat death because I couldn’t live a day without you.
We have to admit to loving these notions!
1. You can steal if you steal my sorrows away. One thing is for certain – when you fall in love completely, you will carry the burdens for each other. In true love stealing away your lovers’ sorrows is one of the great heists of life!
2. You can lie if you lie next to me. This notion is the essence of great love around the world – two people in love join together to form one without losing their individual identities. There is something wonderful and remarkable about having someone who lies next to you while you sleep – someone who makes you feel secure and cozy because you share a bed with someone who loves you unconditionally.
3. You can cheat if you cheat death. Near the end of our interview protocol we ask this question of each couple , “Can you imagine life without your spouse?” The answer is always the same – “NO!” Death changes everything! People in love want to cheat death for as long as they can because life is unimaginable without each other.
You see, you can steal, lie, and cheat in your marriage – under the proper conditions, of course!