submitted: Nov 16th 2008 | by: Adadenis
“Before the advent of the net, distant relationships were rare. Most people met their spouses in school, through a supporter or neighbour, at a party or in a bar. In today’s world, it is not exceptional for men and women to join online who live hundreds and even thousands of miles separated.
Keeping love active while separated can be made easier with a plan:
Both of you should agree to be open and genuine with each other. Talk About your insecurities and areas of exposure.
Talk about thoughts and feelings. This can help you acknowledge more about each other than people who are joined for many years.
Talk on the phone as often as financially possible. Search for bargain distant plans or phone calling cards.
Purchase a video camera. You can IM each other and find each other at the same time with no extra cost.
Determine on a time when you can each go overseas and look at the stars while thinking of each other. This can be a very intense and divine feel.
Decide what constitutes infidelity in each one’s mind. If one of you wants to go out with friends and have a a few drinks, how is this seen by the other party? If you want to dance with a member of the opposite sex, is this viewed as a social activity or infidelity? If you remain friends with an opposite- sex long-time friend, how is this seen by your beloved?
Never finish a telephone conversation on an angry note. Match to cool off for an hour and then call back when you are both in a better, calmer form of mind.
When you are feeling down or extra lonely, it helps to talk to friends who are understanding of your long distance love. These friends will not tell you positive things about your mate and will not advise that he or she may not be sure.
Photos, photos, photos. Send them day-to-day.
Do not laze while you are isolated. Continue to do things that matter to you instead of allowing yourself to become depressed and centering on the time when the two of you are together once more.
Engage in virtual sex. Tension figures up while you are separate. Sharing self-gratification with your lover on the phone, in a letter or online can make the go through so much better. You can both learn to distinguish your fantasise and what grows you on so that it is so much better when you get together.
By continuing loyal to each other despite the time apart and the space, you’re showing each other that it’s secure to trust. During this time, the two of you are growing bonds that will have you in troubles you may face in the forthcoming because you have survived the very difficult relationship pressure of long distance love.”