Love is not a bond, or a relationship, but more of a heart to heart conversation. When the conversation grows, the bond and relationship forms. Therefore, love creates the bond and relationship. You cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved.

How to steal, lie and cheat your way to love

Steal, lie and cheat your way to loveOkay, we admit it – our favorite new love-story movie is Leap Year. It speaks to many of our research findings from the three decades we have researched successful marriage and relationships on six continents of the world.

One of our favorite lines in the movie went something like this – “May you never steal, lie, or cheat.” And before you start getting all worked up over this line, we offer you the punch line – “… but if you must steal, then steal away my sorrows, and if you must lie, lie with me all the nights of my life, and if you must cheat, then please cheat death because I couldn’t live a day without you.

We have to admit to loving these notions!

1. You can steal if you steal my sorrows away. One thing is for certain – when you fall in love completely, you will carry the burdens for each other. In true love stealing away your lovers’ sorrows is one of the great heists of life!

2. You can lie if you lie next to me. This notion is the essence of great love around the world – two people in love join together to form one without losing their individual identities. There is something wonderful and remarkable about having someone who lies next to you while you sleep – someone who makes you feel secure and cozy because you share a bed with someone who loves you unconditionally.

3. You can cheat if you cheat death. Near the end of our interview protocol we ask this question of each couple , “Can you imagine life without your spouse?” The answer is always the same – “NO!” Death changes everything! People in love want to cheat death for as long as they can because life is unimaginable without each other.

You see, you can steal, lie, and cheat in your marriage – under the proper conditions, of course!

(Source: simplethingsmatter.wordpress.com)

Long Distance Love

submitted: Nov 16th 2008 | by: Adadenis

"Before the advent of the net, distant relationships were rare. Most people met their spouses in school, through a supporter or neighbour, at a party or in a bar. In today’s world, it is not exceptional for men and women to join online who live hundreds and even thousands of miles separated.

Keeping love active while separated can be made easier with a plan:

Both of you should agree to be open and genuine with each other. Talk About your insecurities and areas of exposure.

Talk about thoughts and feelings. This can help you acknowledge more about each other than people who are joined for many years.

Talk on the phone as often as financially possible. Search for bargain distant plans or phone calling cards.

Purchase a video camera. You can IM each other and find each other at the same time with no extra cost.

Determine on a time when you can each go overseas and look at the stars while thinking of each other. This can be a very intense and divine feel.

Decide what constitutes infidelity in each one’s mind. If one of you wants to go out with friends and have a a few drinks, how is this seen by the other party? If you want to dance with a member of the opposite sex, is this viewed as a social activity or infidelity? If you remain friends with an opposite- sex long-time friend, how is this seen by your beloved?

Never finish a telephone conversation on an angry note. Match to cool off for an hour and then call back when you are both in a better, calmer form of mind.

When you are feeling down or extra lonely, it helps to talk to friends who are understanding of your long distance love. These friends will not tell you positive things about your mate and will not advise that he or she may not be sure.

Photos, photos, photos. Send them day-to-day.

Do not laze while you are isolated. Continue to do things that matter to you instead of allowing yourself to become depressed and centering on the time when the two of you are together once more.

Engage in virtual sex. Tension figures up while you are separate. Sharing self-gratification with your lover on the phone, in a letter or online can make the go through so much better. You can both learn to distinguish your fantasise and what grows you on so that it is so much better when you get together.

By continuing loyal to each other despite the time apart and the space, you’re showing each other that it’s secure to trust. During this time, the two of you are growing bonds that will have you in troubles you may face in the forthcoming because you have survived the very difficult relationship pressure of long distance love.”


The “We” versus “Me” and “You” in great marriages

Great marriages require We versus You and MeOne of the key ingredients of a successful marriage is a feeling of togetherness – we are in this together and are stronger because of our relationship. While the importance of togetherness is easy to understand, for many couples it is difficult to put into practice in their relationship.

Happily married couples become one without losing the individual identities of each other. Their relationship is NOT focused on you and me, but rather it is all about WE!

Here are the three most important actions you can take to build togetherness as reported from our thousands of interviews with happily married couples:

1. Be the number one cheerleader for your spouse. Support your spouse in every way that you can. Let your partner know just how important they are to you and to the rest of the world. Perhaps the best help that you can give your spouse is to give them the confidence they need to become all that they can be in everything that they endeavor to do. Be your spouse’s strongest supporter. Become their cheerleader. Remember that when your spouse reaches the top of the mountain, you will be standing there with them.

2. Learn how to use comprise as part of daily living in your marriage. No one can have it all his or her way. We share the bed, the toothpaste, the car, the house, and the bills. While this sounds so simple, it can cause some unusual challenges as the two individuals in a marriage have to discuss and work out mutually agreeable arrangements for such minor issues as who uses the shower first and who takes out the trash, as well as major issues such as where to live, if children will be a part of the family, and what car to purchase. Discuss how the two of you will make decisions. When you share a marriage, you must learn the art of compromise—giving a little to gain a lot.

3. Carry the burdens of your marriage on four shoulders, not just two. Helpfulness should become such a matter of habit that you feel and act like a winning team. Both of you individually are good, but the two of you working together can be a dynamite team. The old saying that two heads are better than one is very true in a marriage. Ideas that the two of you generate can be better than most ideas generated alone. As you begin working together you will learn to sense when your spouse needs help, even when they do not ask for it. You will have a “sixth sense” that tells you when your spouse is in need. Sharing life’s burdens on four shoulders is certainly easier than on just two.

Successfully married couples report the importance they feel of always being able to count on their spouse for moral support when they are down in the dumps. This comes from the togetherness they have established in their everyday interactions with each other.

(Source: simplethingsmatter.wordpress.com)

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“Be happy again. Find someone who makes you happy. It might be hard, you might think it’s not possible, but I’d like you to try. The world is a better place when you smile.”

-The Guardian, Nicholas Sparks
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4everyovng:

beyondinfinity-:

“Be happy again. Find someone who makes you happy. It might be hard, you might think it’s not possible, but I’d like you to try. The world is a better place when you smile.”

-The Guardian, Nicholas Sparks

Currently reading this book :D

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..all i want is to grow old with you…

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..all i want is to grow old with you…

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